Bon Bijou jewelry
Photos by Emil Costrut
Easter, that one moment per year when one has to visit their relatives. And if we`re talking about the Morodan family, “relatives” means a bunch of old, eccentric aunts. My grandmother`s sisters and their daughters.
In this spirit, every year for the past 13 years (since I hit 18) I’ve been getting asked the same 2 old questions:
When are you going to get married? When will you have time to have kids?
In recent years I`ve developed a sort of numbness to the matter. Truth be told, a few glasses of gin tonic might do the trick. But this year, today, a new question popped up, following the constant 2.
Can`t you see you are getting old?
My blood pressure got higher, because, frankly, I came to the conclusion that there`s no point explaining that I am in a beautiful relationship. The fact that that they know my fiancee and see him every year is completely useless. It does not matter that I’ve always told them marriage is not for me, that as long as I have a fulfilling relationship, I don`t care about weddings and marriage. Nope, there`s no point in telling them I`ve become a self-made entrepreneur and that I want to focus on other aspects in life. Nope, for them, I`ll never be complete without a kid and a husband. Attention, not a life partner, a husband! My mother always tells me that I should do something about my `I couldn`t care less about what they think` attitude (but I do love you aunties) since it`s disrespectful, but I`m sorry, I really do not care.
On my way back from the family dinner, I was thinking about the pressure families tend to put on their young ones. As if they have to live someone else`s dreams or walk some other life path than their own. That they are indebted to do so…
I`m not blaming marriages or people who get married. I`m not blaming people who decide to have kids. I respect their life choices and when they are my friends, I`m sincere and happy for their happiness. The only thing I`m asking in return is for them to respect mine. Even if our choices are different. If they would be kind enough to do so, I`d be extremely grateful. If they won`t, well I couldn`t care less.
A long time ago, I`ve given up on trying to fulfil my family`s expectations and it was one of the most important decisions I have ever made. And one of the best ones. So, dear aunts, I know you understand English and I know you`ll read this article:
I`m in a relationship which makes me happy and complete, but I will not marry! I can have children, but I will not have one because I don`t want to!
Get this in your head or next year you`re not going to have me as your guest at the Easter brunch.
Affectionately,
Your old maid niece, Ana 
Comments
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Miruna
Ah, matusile astea :)) La fel patesc si eu in fiecare an.
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Bibi
Love the photos, you look gorgeous
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Nina Tuc
Good for you!
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mirela
ce colier superb!!!!
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Angela Diana
Nu vreau sa fiu indiscreta, dar cum de nu iti doresti copii? Crezi ca nu ai avea timp, sau ca ti-ar afecta cariera? Nu ca alegerea ta nu ar fi ok, sunt doar curioasa 🙂
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Ana Morodan
Nu imi doresc asta. Deloc. N-am instinct matern. 🙂
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Victoria - Vikky
You are so brave <3 Thank you for sharing this, made me feel less guilty about my choices
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PaulaRaluca
Superbe poze, esti minunata 😀
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Maria
Ana, arati extraordinar in pozele astea si ma bucur tare sa vad ca esti la fel de asumata in viata, precum si in fashion, daca pot sa spun asa. Esti o femeie grozava si meriti the best, mai ales respect cand vine vorba de deciziile tale. Sarbatori fericite iti doresc si la cat mai putine intrebari sacaitoare!
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kiki D.
Awesome styling ♥
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Ludmila
Voi fi putin tacky, but allow me: Bold, Brave, Beautiful, that’s what you are!
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GabyGaby
Astea sunt oficial pozele mele preferate! Stil, emotie si naturalete, combinatia perfecta 🙂
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Violeta
Acum ca m-am casatorit, am taiat o intrebare de pe lista, in schimb asta nu a facut decat sa devina mai arzatoare si des pusa cea de-a doua intrebare… ce sa-i si faci, mai avem mult pana cand va disparea aceasta preconceptie ca femeia poate fi implinita doar la casa ei.
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mimi
I love this post! There’s so much more to a woman that the ring on her finger!!!
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MoroFan
Love you, you are such an inspiration <3
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fashionista
Can I send this letter to my aunts too? :))))
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Mirela Ionescu
Ah, asta cu “nu vezi ca imbatranesti” e ultima picatura pentru mine. Cum reusesti sa faci fata la asemenea discutii?
AnaBanana
Te respect mult pentru curajul de a-ti apara opinia si alegera 🙂